On the surface it sounds like a premise no-one could take issue with: a day to celebrate mums, and all they do for us. A time to thank those we often take for granted. A chance for mothers everywhere to put their feet up and enjoy some well-earned pampering. For some, it’s a happy day, and that’s wonderful. But for some- I would even go as far as to say most- it will be tinged with slightly less positive emotions.
Those who have lost their mums, and wish they were still with them.
Single mums of young kids who have no-one to affirm them and tell them they’re doing a good job.
Those who long to be a mum more than anything else in the world, but can’t be.
Those who’ve lost a child.
Those who lack that wonderful relationship with their mum that on Mother’s Day it seems like everyone around them enjoys.
Those for whom motherhood is a daily struggle, and at the moment feels like nothing to celebrate.
Those who feel unappreciated in their role as a mother.
Even for those fortunate enough not to fall into any of those categories, it can be another day when the commercial hype sets us up for a disappointment. We are bombarded with things to buy and places to go in order to show our mums how much we love them.
Make Your Mum Feel Special This Mother’s Day. Shop Today. Hurry! (Tesco)
Show your mum how much she means to you, with a Mother’s Day gift to remember. (Argos)
Make this Mother’s Day completely perfect by shopping with Thorntons.
Show your Mum how much you care with our mothers day gifts… (Matalan)
These are just a small selection of this year’s advertising slogans. It’s difficult to avoid them; it’s easy to feel like we’re falling short, or being short-changed ourselves, if we’re not part of it. But we all know that there are many other ways to make people feel loved and appreciated than just buying them stuff.
Let’s celebrate mums for who they are: normal people who have been blessed with children, for the most part trying our hardest to carry out the role of mother as best we can. We’re not the super-saints and paragons of virtue that we are somehow portrayed as on Mother’s Day. It is not a role that everyone is able to have, or that everyone wants, and on today of all days we should be sensitive to that.
Why not say something encouraging today, be it to your mum, someone else’s mum, or someone you know will find the day difficult, and celebrate those that have mothered and mentored us, whether they are related to us or not. And let’s not allow ourselves to be made to feel guilty (or guilt-trip those we think should be treating us!) if we haven’t spent a fortune on gifts and cards. We’ve got the rest of the year to make the mother-figures in our lives feel loved and appreciated- it’s not meant to be a one-day wonder.
Emma Tanner 
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Beautifully written. Thank you. I’ve linked to this post from my blog.
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Many thanks for the link and kind comment. It’s amazing how many people this seemed to resonate with…
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Reblogged this on princessemmablog and commented:
I’m reposting this as it seemed to touch a chord with many last year….
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